Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Paperwork Preview

Today we went into the office to see the SW and go over the papers we will sign once the baby is born. We have to sign many papers stating that we understand the risks. They cannot guarantee what the health of the child will be and the bm has 30 days to change her mind etc. They will do some testing of the baby and the bm at the hospital to check for basic health and do a drug screen.

It was a nice meeting. We had heard most of the case details before. There was one surprise. The bm did not pay her insurance bill. When the sw found out, she paid, but it was too late and now the bm has none and needs to reapply.  We might have to cover the delivery bill which would be a few thousand more. She said sometimes the hospital will cut you a break when you are the adoptive parents. The sw is trying to get the issue straightend out and she said that if it goes through they might be able to get it covered even after the baby is born. We would not have to pay for this until after the 30 days since we would not be respobsible unless we keep the baby. Although this could be more money I don't care unless it is nonrefundable. I have come this far already.

The sw told us to keep going with this case. She congratulated us on making it this far. It is a weird place to be in. I am very excited to have made it this far. I am excited that the plan is that I will take this baby home. I am scared to get too excited bc this is not permanent yet.

She said after the 30 days are up then we go to court to file for pemanent placement. She told us to tell our family to think of it as we will be foster parents for 30 days. She told us not to have a party yet. I had to laugh bc I have nothing set up and I told my family already no parties until the 30 days are up.

My friend gave me a car seat. So far that is the only thing I have. I might go shopping this weekend and get a few things to hide in the house.

The sw asked us if we knew the gender. She never mentioned it so I just assumed they did not know. She knew and asked us if we wanted to know. I was afraid and then I looked at dh, I was shocked when he wanted to know. We found out.............It is crazy that even though you are happy for either, knowing makes it more real. I am not telling anyone yet. I need to process this first.

Count down to the due date: 14 days

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Annual Home Inspection

The sw came to my house for our annual inspection. This experience was totally different than last year. Last year she started out with insulting me about my clutter and how small my house was.This year she came into my house and was nice. She complimented me on how clean my house was.  I just smiled and thanked her. She said that I really cleaned up nice. Again, I smiled and nodded. It is amazing how the timing worked out, bc we had to clean out the house to sell it.

Then she tells me that I am a totally different person this year. She said last year I was depressed and I got really mad at her when she mentioned my clutter...... OMG so I had to just smile and nod. She said all of my stuff was keeping me down and now I am free. I smiled and nodded bc even though it was kind of annoying, she was being nice and was complimenting me. If you spoke to her you would think I should be a guest on hoarders.

I showed her pictures of our new house. I think that also helped a lot to set the mood bc she loved that house and knew that we would be living there soon. She reviewed our home study. This time it was easy bc we only had to confirm that the information was the same. Last year she interviewed us and it was really tough.

We spoke again about case #5 and she said that the bm was still interested. She was going to see her soon and make sure that she was still on board with this plan. We are not going to meet her.

The sw said that this woman could deliver any day. We are both leaving the area for a few days this weekend, but she said it was ok. Then if we take the baby home, she would come back to the house in three days to make sure we had a bassinet, food, clothing, and diapers.

Today the sw wanted money for the bm's lawyer.  This is the furthest we have ever gotten.

HMMMM this might be getting real.

Friday, June 19, 2015

Case #5 is open again

We have a buyer for our house!

One day while I was out watering the flowers, a man drove by and asked me what I thought of my house. We spoke for a few minutes and then I gave him a flyer and invited him to the open house at the end of the week.  I got his name.

At the open house we had 8 people stop by. This man was one of them. He made an offer. It was too low so we countered. Then he came up a little bit and said it was his final. We were unable to take it. His agent said that he would be going with his second choice.

About two weeks later he came back with a higher offer and we accepted. He put down a deposit and signed the initial paperwork. The inspection is next week.

The closing will be about two weeks after we close on our new house. I set it up this way so we could have two weeks to pack and move into the new house with less stress. This made it a little tougher finanically bc we are selling second and have to use all of our savings up front. When we sell, we will get everything to balance out.

A few days after we settled on this deal, the SW called. She said case#5 was back open. This is the third time that this case has come to our attention. It seems this time that the bm is fighting with her mother and moved out of her house. Her mother was going to file custody and is not going to anymore.

The sw wanted to know if we were still interested. The due date is July 15. We had to think about this. Three times could be a good sign or it could be a sign that this is just too unpredictable. We also are in a pickle bc all of our moeny is tied up in the house. We had planned on borrowing against the new house once we closed in Aug. If the baby is born in July we won't have the money, bc the sw wants 20K right after the baby is born.  I thought about what to do and was thinking that if we didn't have the money then it was not meant to me.

I spoke to my friend, who said she would help me out by lending us the money. WOW, I would have never asked her.

I called the sw back and told her that we are still interested. I told her we are moving. She was fine with that. She said we need to redo our homestudy in Aug. That stinks bc it is up this month. I thought they would only charge us a small amount to come back in Aug for the home inspection. They are going to charge us $450 in June to do the annual review and then another $450 in Aug to just come do the house inspection.

I am excited that this may be the one. I am trying not to get too excited bc this woman is very unpredictable and keeps changing her mind. I am so glad that I have the house to keep my busy.

Sunday, June 14, 2015

Working on the House

It has almost been a month since we listed our house for sale. We have continued to work on the house every day since then. It is crazy that we listed our house and we were not really ready. I don't regret it bc we tend to be perfectionists sometimes and I just had to get it listed or I knew it would never happen.

I started with touching up paint in every room. I had a few spots that I missed, some chips near the corner or floor, or some spots on a wall that would not come clean. This quickly became a huge project bc not all paint cans were usable. Some were really old, rusty, and gross.  I had to get more paint. I also needed more brushes bc I wanted to paint more than one color at a time. After I cleaned out all of the closets, I realized that they also needed to be repainted.

The master bedroom was the worst. We had a stress crack going from the ceiling to the floor. It was there when we bought the house, we had fixed it and it came back, so we had left it alone. I plastered the crack and when I repainted it, I quickly realized that the wall was no longer the same color and the repair stuck out. The color had faded from the sun. I had to repaint the whole room.  I love the fresh color.

After we cleaned out the garage, I had to plaster some holes, repaint the walls and the floor. The floor had been painted gray by the previous owners. A lot of it had come off, there was white paint, rust etc all over the floor. It really needed to be paved, so I decided to repaint the floor gray and it looked amazing.

The linen closest is four ft long and had metal shelves that I had covered with shelf paper when we moved in. I totally forgot about them until I cleared out the closet. I went to Home Depot to buy some wood boards and paint them. They look amazing in the closet. The closet used to be 12 in deep, now it is 16 in deep. We got some cute baskets to keep our stuff neat and hidden in the closet. 

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Offically Listed

Our house has been officially listed and there is a sign post in our front yard. YEAH. I am so excited. It was a lot of work but so much easier than filing for adoption. My house has never been so clean for so long. DH is really motivated to sell quickly so he has been picking up after himself....

We still have a little work to do with the closets and garage. I am fine with someone seeing them but it would be more ideal to straighten them up and organize them. Today is the first day in a few weeks that I did not have to work on the house, so I get to relax. It feels great and I am so happy that I accomplished my goal of getting it listed.

Hopefully we can sell it soon. Our townhouse is part of a four family unit and we are on the end. This is very desirable when looking for a townhouse since you are not stuck in the middle of others and you get more land.

Saturday, May 16, 2015

The Photographer

The  real estate agent, was waiting for the photographer outside of our house. The photographer was really late and finally called the real estate agent. He said that he was done taking photos and he was surprised that the agent did not show. The real estate agent, tells the photographer that it is impossible bc he was waiting outside of our house the whole time.

He tells him that he went to the wrong address. Same street different house number. The real estate agent asks the  photographer if he just did the outside. Nope, he did the inside too. It seems that the  photographer rang the bell and a man answered. The  photographer tells him that he is there to take pictures bc the real estate agent, requested his services so they can list the house. The man lets him in. The house is a total mess but the  photographer takes the photos anyway.

Later on a police car drives by and stops at my house to ask the real estate agent why he is taking photos of the outside of the house bc that guy called the police. Then the real estate agent, tells him about the mix up. The officer says that it must have just been the outside. Then real estate agent, tells the officer that the man let the  photographer into his home and allowed it to be photographed even though it was a mess and he was not going to list it.

OMG  I was hysterical hearing this story. DH and I hypothesized that this man must have let the  photographer in and then called his wife who said that she was not expecting a photographer and they were not listing their house. That is probably when he called the police.

It felt good to laugh bc we have been so serious these past few weeks.

Sunday, May 10, 2015

Made an Offer

I wanted to keep looking for a house that we both loved. DH was done looking and wanted to get something now. I always take forever to make a decision but he is very decisive.  He said we could get one of the houses that I loved...................EEEEEKKKKKK

We put in an offer on a house that was only on the market for about a week. We tried to stay calm and not get too excited bc we knew that it might be too late already. We also put in an offer that was below asking price. They countered our offer with a little more. We accepted.

It does not seem real to me that I bought a house. I am still very cautious bc it is not official until closing and anything can happen. We put down a deposit and will close at the end of July. They don't want to move out until the end of August bc they are building a new house and can't get in until then. They will pay us rent for one month.

We found a mortgage that will help us out. It is adjustable so we don't need to put down 20%. We can still avoid PMI and only put down 10%. This will help us tremendously when trying to arrange money for the adoption and the new house.

Now I have to get my house listed and sell it. I have been working every night to declutter, visit the storage unit, and paint. My main project is still the garage. I have painted most walls and most of the ceiling. I started to paint the floor grey and it looks amazing. As soon as that is done, we can finish moving stuff out of the other rooms into the garage and clean.

 Adoption News:
Case number five is closed for now. The grandmother is going to file for custody bc the bm is not legally allowed to parent. I am fine with this bc I knew in my heart that it was really iffy. I never got attached to this one. I have also been so busy with the house that I did not have time to get my hopes up.